Reality

Reality is not something that we imagine… Reality is what is really there. Sometimes, we what we imagine and what really is there is blended together and may not actually exist the way we think it does. Perception of reality varies from person to person, from boy to girl, from age to age, from experience to experience. Sometimes it is hard to view reality when the imagination takes over. 

Here is the thing… Sometimes reality is better than our imagination. Sometimes it is easier. Relationships are usually built on imagination, which is why they usually fail. Wouldn’t it just be easier to build the possible relationship on reality that way if there is something that may divide the two later, it can be addressed and solved or, if it can’t be solved, heartbreak and heartache can be avoided. If there is a possibility of forming a relationship, wouldn’t it be better to tell the significant other all the secrets that my damage the relationship later? I’m not saying that it is the easy thing to do but it is the best thing to do. 

Relationships are built on trust and trust can only be built on reality. Reveling a fake identity at the start of a relationship builds a fake trust that will eventually hurt more that revealing the true you. Revealing a true identity at the start of a relationship builds a true trust. Having nothing major between you when you build the start of your relationship will make it easier for you to talk with each other about things that are bothering you.

I need real trust in a relationship in order to make it work. Real trust means reality. Reality means knowing the other’s real story and not being afraid to discuss hurt and fears, joys and happiness with the other person. No secrets and seeing everything through the eyes of reality, is what will make a relationship work.